I know a little about patterns and how hard they are to break. I’m in human form, and I know how important routines can be. I know the power of entrenched belief systems.
Watching other sentient being shows that humans are not the only ones addicted to long held ideas: when I first walked my golden retriever puppy I saw it first hand- he marked his spots, and repeated about 99% of the time where he did his business.
We humans are not that different: we mark our spots in life with our ideas and thoughts, which operate as the main frame in creating our life experiences. And since money is one of the major “food groups” in our thinking, many of us settle, and mark our spots in life with self-defeating beliefs. The result is an impoverished life.
How can you get out from under those long held beliefs and replace them with life affirming beliefs?
Only by constant work, and there is no getting around this. There is not an easy miracle cure for a lifetime of defective conditioning designed to control, not enhance your life. The reason for this is neurological: every experience occupies a certain part of your brain, and when you encounter a similar situation your brain re-activates your past response automatically. Unless you consciously re-program your thoughts, you are destined to repeat the same self-destructive behavior again and again, and you will never be prosperous.
But the good news is that every step that you take will bring relief, along with palpable results; with sincere, consistent efforts your new beliefs will be substituted for your old self-defeating ways.
Here are some hints to really help you discard what is holding you back from the rich life that you want:
Stop feeding your ego. So much of our thoughts and our daily activity, so much of our effort to create wealth, is based on our ego. We imagine how we are going to feel when we are in a “better” place financially. Our ego is naturally flattered and enhanced; we feel propped up, we are now a “success,” and will get everyone’s respect. These conditioned thoughts and ideas must be discarded because they sap the energy you need to actually do the hard work. Ego is a bottomless pit that never gets enough-until we put our foot down and refuse to feed it. It is that simple, but not so easy to do: be prepared for extreme resistance.
Acknowledge that much of the conditioning that you absorbed (whether from parents, teachers, mentors, friends), was just not true. Stand in front of the mirror, look yourself in the eye, and repeat this: “I was fed untruths by people who may have loved me, but they were unconscious themselves.”
This may seem like a radical thing to suggest, and even do, but it is essential if you are going to process and adopt a new process to create the life that you want, and to share all the benefits with those you love.
Cultivate patience and gratitude. An old Czech proverb oozes with wisdom: patience brings roses. Sit with that thought for a moment…Appreciate the life at your disposal right now, and realize on a certain level that it doesn’t get any better than that.