If someone says to me, “I’ve tried meditation but I just can’t stop my mind from wondering,” I remind the individual that there are two important factors to learning meditation- one, setting the intention and two, learning from a master.
We may not have tools to overcome stress, for example, on our own or we may not have learned a technique that drops us into a meditative state- but if set an intention, make the time, create the space and hold the goal with a positive attitude, we’ve overcome half the battle.
In my practice, I praise clients for making the choice in seeking a therapeutic relationship- in identifying a problem, in setting aside the time in their schedule for a weekly appointment, in accepting that negative thinking patterns will have to be dropped in order for the positive ones to take place and for their work developing the self-esteem to see this through. If you start off with, “I can’t,” it’s likely that you won’t. But if you start off open to, “I would like to,” or, “I think I can,” then you are more likely to succeed with your goal.
Once the intention is set, the next step is to seek an expert. If your teenager is eager to obtain a driving permit, you wouldn’t throw them your keys and set them off to learn by trial and error- you would seek an experienced driver or a coach to demonstrate. Similarly, if you’re having trouble meditating on your own, have you considered how you might benefit by learning from an expert?
My suggestion is to look up Vedic Meditation or feel free to reach out- I can help you find a local Initiator who can teach you the effortless technique that will set you up with a self-sufficient practice for life.
In the meantime, having an intention, holding the space is a great way to start. Even if you have trouble closing your eyes and sitting silently with your thoughts for more than a few minutes, don’t give up. Let go of expectations and start with setting the intention- I will close my eyes and follow my breath for five minutes. Start with five minutes, and add a minute every few days. Praise yourself for having taken the time and being open to creating the space. Eventually you’ll learn from a professional but until then, it’s better have a positive intention and show yourself that you can little by little rather than believing you can’t at all.